FUNERAL SERVICE FOR ASHLEY NICOLE FLIGER
Psalm 23
Prayer
"HELLO" by kayla weinand
Obituary & family memories
"MY IMMORTAL" by kayla weinand
Message by kevin weinand
Closing prayer
Graveside - I Corintians 15:51-58
Psalm 23:1-6
1 The Lord is my shepherd; I have all that I need. 2 He lets me rest in green meadows; he leads me beside peaceful streams. 3 He renews my strength. He guides me along right paths, bringing honor to his name. 4 Even when I walk through the darkest valley, I will not be afraid, for you are close beside me. Your rod and your staff protect and comfort me. 5 You prepare a feast for me in the presence of my enemies. You honor me by anointing my head with oil. My cup overflows with blessings. 6 Surely your goodness and unfailing love will pursue me all the days of my life, and I will live in the house of the Lord forever.
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Family Memories:
AUNT AMY Ashley liked to stay at my house while she was in Troy visiting Grandma. I fixed spaghetti and she loved the sprinkle cheese. She picked off all the cheese with her tongue and ask for more cheese. She loved my cats. She spent the night with me one of the times and she pushed me out of the queen size bed. I went to another room to a twin bed and she found me there. We ended up back in the queen size bed. She loved to sleep right next to you. Ashley always had a smile for me and she was interested in my sewing. Ashley was a very special person in my life. I will miss her.
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LEE WEINAND Ashley was very funny, she always made me laugh. Last weekend we visited Ashley and Karla. Ashley & I played her Wii. She named her character cake. I don’t know why, but that just struck me funny. She got my Dsi and drew a picture. Ashley was a very good artist. We all loved her drawings. I will miss you Ashley.
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GRANDMA WEINAND Ashley was a very loving special child and she loved to come to our home. She loved to get in grandpa’s recliner and he would tickle her and they would giggle. She loved going to SS & church with me. I’d have paper and pencil in my purse and she loved drawing story pictures. Once we had an Easter contata and she drew pictures of the story. She always had a smile for everyone and would talk to anyone. I will miss her.
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ANDREA CARPIO Ashley was an amazing young lady. She was always so happy and quick to have fun when she visited me. I loved just sitting next to her and letting her talk. The things she would say would often be well thought out ideas or just goofy ramblings of a carefree child. I will always miss those conversations and the smiles and giggles that were a part of them. She was a talented artist who always had a masterpiece for me to hang on my fridge. She was a beautiful girl and I will miss her more than words could ever express.
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AUNT SANDRA I liked talking with Ashley and will miss her.
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UNCLE KEVIN Due to the fact that we lived in KC, we each other often. I can hear her giggling in Kayla’s room or chasing Lee to catch him and give him hugs and kisses. I remember her philosophies on life that she would tell me. Always a smile and a giggle. Mayo clinic and you getting to see us. Your smiles, laughter, giggles, and you sqealing "Uncle Kevin, don’t chase me" will always ring in my ear from this last weekend. She and I battled weight. She battled weight gain and I battled weight loss and we had a competition with each other on who was doing the best in comparison.
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ASHLEY’S LIFE THOUGHTS *We are all the same. *Did not see color of skin, religious differences, or sexual orientation. *We were all equal and put here by God to make the world better. *Non-judgemental. * Always spotted the weakest or outcast and would go out of her way to befriend them. *Wanted to ‘poke atoms’ - be a scientist. *Artistic & loved soothing music. * Loved to wear her mom’s clothes.
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Message
Matthew 5:4 God blesses those who mourn, for they will be comforted.
Isaiah 43:2 When you go through deep waters, I will be with you. When you go through rivers of difficulty, you will not drown. When you walk through the fire of oppression, you will not be burned up; the flames will not consume you.
2 Corinthians 12:9 My grace is all you need.
Isaiah 66:13 I will comfort you as a mother comforts her child.
Isaiah 41:13 For I hold you by your right hand I, the Lord your God. And I say to you, ‘Don’t be afraid. I am here to help you.
John 14 1-3, 6, 18 Let not your heart be troubled: ye believe in God, believe also in me. 2 In my Father's house are many mansions: if it were not so, I would have told you. I go to prepare a place for you. 3 And if I go and prepare a place for you, I will come again, and receive you unto myself; that where I am, there ye may be also. 6 Jesus saith unto him, I am the way, the truth, and the life: no man cometh unto the Father, but by me. 18 I will not leave you comfortless: I will come to you.
1) Jesus saw troubled disciples. 2) Jesus offered comfort. 3) Jesus made a promise of heaven We all have questions and not many answers, but there is a God who does care, knows the answers, and knows how to comfort each one. Does God care? Does God know about pain, suffering, and grief? Yes!. God sent His only Son, Jesus, to earth to die for our sins. In the garden, God had to turn His back on Jesus. WHY? As a father He naturally wanted to intervene and stop, but the battle was so intense that He had to turn His back, so the plan of salvation would be complete. This is the only time recorded that God turned his back on someone who was hurting. He did this so that the plan of salvation would be complete and you and I could make it to heaven. God loves us and wants to give healing and comfort today. God sees Karla’s hurting heart and knows how hard Karla worked at being a good mother to Ashley. God knows how much Karla did to help Ashley with her physical needs. Karla put her career, job, and everything else on the line to help Ashley. Karla, I give you honor today.
Ashley knew a lot about physical pain. She had pain from birth. She is free of pain. Revelation 21:4 God shall wipe away all tears from their eyes; and there shall be no more death, neither sorrow, nor crying, neither shall there be any more pain: for the former things are passed away.
This is a picture of a child who is hurting and crying crawling upon a loving parent’s lap and the parent tenderly wiping the tears and hugging the child and giving all the comfort that they can give. This is what God does for us now. When we do make it to heaven, there will be no more pain or sorrow.
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Graveside
I Corinthians 15 :51-58 Behold, I shew you a mystery; We shall not all sleep, but we shall all be changed, In a moment, in the twinkling of an eye, at the last trump: for the trumpet shall sound, and the dead shall be raised incorruptible, and we shall be changed. For this corruptible must put on incorruption, and this mortal must put on immortality. So when this corruptible shall have put on incorruption, and this mortal shall have put on immortality, then shall be brought to pass the saying that is written, Death is swallowed up in victory. O death, where is thy sting? O grave, where is thy victory? The sting of death is sin; and the strength of sin is the law. But thanks be to God, which giveth us the victory through our Lord Jesus Christ. Therefore, my beloved brethren, be ye stedfast, unmoveable, always abounding in the work of the Lord, forasmuch as ye know that your labour is not in vain in the Lord.
ASHLEY’S LIFE THOUGHTS *We are all the same. *Did not see color of skin, religious differences, or sexual orientation. *We were all equal and put here by God to make the world better. *Non-judgmental. * Always spotted the weakest or outcast and would go out of her way to befriend them. *Wanted to ‘poke atoms’ - be a scientist. *Artistic & loved soothing music. * Loved to wear her mom’s clothes. She had a huge heart and was kind and treated everyone with great manners. She was cute yet classy. Everywhere she went, she would find or see hearts in nature. She loved to snuggle with mom. I knew she was precious, it was just hard for her to know and believe that for some reason. Her pain kept her from having a normal social life which caused depression. I love her and will miss her. However, I know she is here with me, helping me through each day and whispering "Mom, help all the other kids with this pain like you helped me."
SPIRITUAL CONTACT A cousin bought me a psychic reading as a gift to help me deal with my grief. The first reading was on the phone. It started out with the psychic seeing white wings. The first thing Ashley said to the psychic was for me to stop worrying about the religion and guilt. She wanted to know if I was ok and was it too early to be contacting her. Ashley talked about Grandpa Weinand and that he and her were drawing together. She said that there is no hell, that it is only hell on earth. She said she is in a good place, she is happy and pain free. She was learning everything she could possibly learn. She talked about Dave, her step dad. He apologized for all the grief that he had put us through. Ashley wanted to say Hello to her cousin Andrea and my friend Monica. She also mentioned Kayla one time and wanted to thanks Kevin for being such a good brother to her mother.
The next contact was through a reading that my cousin had. She just mentioned that her cousin's daughter had committed suicide and wanted to know more. The psychic wanted to know if she had hung herself because she could sense a restriction of the esophogus. I got goosebumps! She had identified the EE but didn't realize it. She said that a grandparent of Ashley's had passed away and that it really depressed Ashley because she missed them so much. Her grandpa had passed away the previous year. Also, her stepdad passed away 6 months ago. She said that Ashley was sorry she did this in her bedroom and that we had to find her this way. She said that she didn't want to do it there but ran out of options. She said that someone will give me a cross and she will be watching. She also loved the yellow flowers at the funeral.
Ok, I met Cindy Cope-Angel today for coffee. She had a gift for me and guess what it was??? A cross!!! Jackie and I looked at each other in astonishment.
Ashley told the psychic that I could feel her by the kitchen window and through smoke (I am assuming through candles).
The next meeting I had was with Marveena in Dallas this weekend. She held Ashley's little compact mirror that Ashley bought at a boutigue in Weston, MO. Ashley was happy to see me and thanked me for taking the time to be there. She thanked Jackie for bringing me and taking care of her mother. Ashley said that she didn't want to grow old so she just circled in for a short visit. I asked about the guilt I have for not purchasing the headstone yet. The answer was, "She isn't there, anyway. Her spirit is out and around us.". Ashley said that she reads books over my shoulder. Ashley wanted me to forgive myself for the mistake I made with Mike. She said that her pain can only go away as mine does. She hurts as much as I do for hurting so many people. She giggled a lot which is what Ashley did.
reminded me of nik almost, even though she was 14 and not 13.
conversations with my 13 year old self-PINK.
Conversations with my thirteen year old self
Conversations with my thirteen year old self
You're angry
I know this
The world couldn't care less
You're lonely
I feel this
And you wish you were the best
No teachers
Or guidance
And you always walk alone
You're crying
At night when
Nobody else is home
Come over here and let me hold your hand and hug you darling
I promise you that it won't always feel this bad
There are so many things I want to say to you
You're the girl I used to be
You little heartbroken thirteen year old me
You're laughing
But you're hiding
God I know that trick too well
You forget
That I've been you
And now I'm just the shell
I promise
I love you and
Everything will work out fine
Don't try to
Grow up yet
Oh just give it some time
The pain you feel is real you're not asleep but it's a nightmare
But you can wake up anytime
Oh don't lose your passion or the fighter that's inside of you
You're the girl I used to be
The pissed off complicated thirteen year old me
Conversations with my thirteen year old self
Conversations with my thirteen year old self
Until we meet again
Oh I wish you well oh
I wish you well
Little girl
Until we meet again
Oh
I wish you well
Little girl
I wish you well
Until we meet again
My little thirteen year old me
I found this on my work computer. She sent this to me 12/06/2007
(A) Four jobs I have had in my life:
> 1. Photography consultant
> 2. being a kid
> 3. profesional mom psych researcher
> 4. professional weirdo
>
> (B) Four movies I would watch over and over:
> (Pirates of the carribean)POTC
> POTC 2
> inyuasha 4
> napolean dynamite
>
> (C) Four places I have lived:
>
> froogigoogwertaikanpushumi ville
> Emo world
> Lala Land
> Kansas City, MO
>
> (D) Four TV Shows that I watch:
> 1. House
> 2. Inuyasha
> 3. Family Guy
> 4. Full metal alchemist
>
> (E) Four places I have been:
> 1. oogies burg
> 2. Emo world
> 3. San Diego, CA
> 4. Daytona Beach, FL
>
> (F) People who e-mail me (regularly)
> 1. Daniel
> 2. Sarica
> 3. telemarketers
> 4. mariah
>
> (G) Four Favorite foods
> 1. Cementines
> 2. wheat bread
> 3. peanut butter w/ soda crackers (sandwiched)
> 4. various plants especially 3-leaf clovers (4-leaf one's taste
horrible because of the mutation in their genetic code i suspect)
>
> (H) Four places I would rather be right now:
> 1. Emo world
> 2. dreamland
> 3. under a rock keeping the poor lil buggies warm =(
> 4. Purgatory (sounds cool)
>
> (I) Four friends I think will respond:
> 1. Sarica
> 2. daniel
> 3. mariah
> 4. pudgy (my cousin kayla)
>
> (J) Things I am looking forward to this (next) year:
> 1. getting a wii
> 2. being healthy again
> 3. maybe getting 2 ferrets or a chemeleon
> 4. more POTC movies
